I Have A Job…I’m A Mom
|27 September, 2013||Posted by Mandi Jayne under Being Mom|
If you are a working mom, please don’t think that I’m judging you, because I’m not. I’m just here to say what I think.
There seems to be some sort of confusion going around…that I (and SAHMs in general) stay home just because we are fortunate enough to have a hubby who can pay the bills.
Well….to a certain extent, that’s true. My life would certainly be different if my husband was unable to support our family or unwilling to have me stay home. Instead, I have a wonderful husband who is fully supportive of my desire to stay home with my kids.
I’m not discounting how hard working moms work. I think that the ability to juggle parenting, work, and a household is amazing, and I applaud those women.
My issue is with people who look down their noses at stay at home moms, who think that all we do is putter around, eating bon bons with our feet up.
What I’m getting at is that I don’t stay home just out of sheer dumb luck. I stay home with my kids because my husband and I decided this was best for us. I’ve always wanted to be a stay at home, homeschooling mom, right from the beginning. It was a choice we made, but it has not always been an easy one.
Perhaps you’ve heard of this thing called money? Well, it turns out that if you don’t work, as in work in exchange for money, you don’t get any. So when the bills arrive in the mailbox, we only have my hubby’s salary to depend on. Some months are tighter than others, but we make it work. We make it work because I have made staying home a priority.
It’s not a choice that we fell into, and it’s not something we ignore. Every month I make it a priority to look for ways to make it work.
I feel like since I don’t work outside the home, it is my job to make sure that my presence at home is worthwhile. I think we make choices about the things we want in life, we choose the important things, and then we figure out ways to get those things.
Have you ever met a smoker, and wondered how on earth they paid for cigarettes? They make it figure it out, they make it a priority, because to them, those cigarettes are extremely important.
(Please, do not start smoking. That is not the point. Hellloooo.)
Since staying home is so important to me, and to our family, we have made sacrifices to make this happen. We’ve given up things like cable TV and eating out, we have one vehicle, and I proactively look into ways to save money-like menu planning and cooking from scratch.
So please don’t make snide comments when you find out that I stay at home, that I don’t work, and (gasp!) I don’t intend to go back to work.
I have a job. My job is to be a wife and mother, and to care for our household. I work hard to make sure that I’m good at my job. I make sacrifices and I make do with less so that we can live like this. Because this is the choice that is best for our family.